Let me be bold in this post today, let me speak the words that are hard to listen to but that are also hard for me to say. It is NOT right for you to steal or disintegrate someone’s joy. If you cannot be happy for someone, it doesn’t matter what they are happy about (you can get into that step later) but the first step, your emotion or reaction to the other person’s joy, you need to control. It is human, if someone is happy about something we don’t like, or maybe a jealous streak runs across our mind, or perhaps you despise what the other person is happy about. But it is not your place, to control someone’s happiness. And that is what you are doing when you put a cloud over it, you are trying to smother it out, so YOU can be happy or find comfort for YOURSELF.

I have ‘preached’, if you want to call it that, to other people about being happy for YOURSELF, finding that happiness for YOURSELF, not letting anyone make you happy, but for your self. I have also wrestled with the fact that I can be happy for people that flat out refuse to be happy for me. And you know what, I’ve (maybe, or trying to) come to terms with that. Because that only hurts the other person. If someone can’t be happy for me, that’s not my problem. I’m not trying to be happy for THEM, I’m trying to be happy for MYSELF. And for God. When I can make God and myself happy, that is the ONLY thing that matters.

Sometimes this way of thinking can seem selfish, but it IS NOT selfish to want to be happy for yourself. You will never please someone fully, you will never satisfy any human on this earth. We will try, and maybe for a moment we will, but eventually we will fail. We are only human.

With that being said, with our failures comes forgiveness. Not always for the other person but for ourselves. Now, along with the keeping yourself separate from others in happiness, it is also a fact that someone’s misery or hatred for another IS NOT MINE. If you have an issue, and I take it upon my self your issue, that is not right. Plain and simple.

We can try to help one another through our issues, but you do not need to take another ones issue to become your own. And when someone tries to include you in their issue, that is not right either. You are your OWN person. You are in control of YOUR OWN actions, not others. Someone may wrong you, that is not my fault. Nor is that my responsibility to take on to harm the person that wronged you. That is between YOU and that other person, not me.

Too often people have stopped my joy because of an issue they had. And to be honest, it sucks. To kill someone’s joy, that to me is one of the worst things you could do to someone, especially when they have so little or struggle finding happiness in their own daily life.

My husband once told me, I was the best at being the bigger person he had ever seen. Because I have been through so much hell, more mentally than physically, in my life, but yet, I can turn my cheek aside. People are not worth it. I’m sorry, but they aren’t. People are temporary on this earth. My relationship with Jesus is permanent and He is the only opinion I’m going to be concerned with.

I thank God for allowing me to write this today, as I mentioned this is my boldness. This is what truth I have today, and also it is a reminder for me, that Jesus’ opinion is the only one that should matter in your life. Unfortunately we are human on a carnal earth, we will make mistakes, we will get frustrated, we will get hurt, we will mess up all the time, and that is where we repent and leave it.

I was praying last night, and I prayed for Jesus to for forgive me because I mess up so much, but to please for give me for when I mess up tomorrow because I will. I will try so hard to be in favor of God, but I will fall short. I always do, WE always do, because we are human.

But you have to RECOGNIZE when YOU are in the wrong with yourself, not someone else. Separate yourself, ask God to help you over come your misery in thoughts, because that’s what your thoughts are, misery. In the Webster’s Dictionary misery is defined as great unhappiness. The opposite of Joy.

Misery is one of Satan’s favorite pastime hobbies as well. When you are in misery, like we play games on our phone to pass time, Satan is playing with you to pass time. It’s nothing for him to pass over you when you do not have Joy in Christ. It is so effortless to Satan to sit down and shower in your misery.

The Lord placed this on my heart this morning, I feel like I’ve been typing really and don’t even know what I’ve written. It’s not for one individual, though I’m sure some will take it that way, as we are only human, but this is for EVERYONE that sinks into this subject. This is for EVERYONE that cannot be happy for someone else. Because again, at the end of the day, you are only hurting yourself. Bless that person who has wronged you, pray for that person, and give it to God. Give praise to God that you have over come obstacles in your life. That’s what I’m doing. I have people that have put me so far into Hell and back, but you know what? I want the best for them. I want them to be saved (I don’t think they are, but that’s between them and God), I want them to have peace, and I don’t wish any ill will for them. I don’t cuss them, I try not to speak bad about them, and honestly, I try not to let them even cross my mind. They are not worth my happiness to do so. And that’s where you have to let go and give it to God. Because when a thought of someone or situation you face crosses your mind, and stops your joy, that is Satan turning you on like a game on a cell phone, to pass his time. And just like us, when we get on our phones, we stay on there for minutes or hours. So does Satan.

Romans 12:15

Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. Be of the same mind one towards another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits. Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine: I will repay, saith the Lord.